Skip to content

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck


One of my favourite quotes in the book is The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.

An amazing book that surely refreshed my thoughts with some honest truths of life. It was different from all the positive books depicting that it is not always good to stay positive in life. It is okay to be neutral sometimes for a real happy you. 

Mark Manson, the author of the book did not sugarcoat things and his words and expressed openly his thoughts. The best thing about the book is that it taught me a lesson that it is good to accept your flaws and be just ordinary because not everyone can be extraordinary in life. 

In life there are losers and winners, you cannot always be a winner or the loser every time, so accept the fact for a better and happier life. If we are aware of our limitations, we can easily accept all our fear, flaws, and uncertainties of life. Avoid running from all the problems, confront them with all the courage with full honesty. 

There are so many things going in our, we can’t give a fuck about every problem. While reading the book, I got to learn this quality also by identifying the important and unimportant things in life. We surely need to figure out what matters in our lives and whatnot. 

For generations, we are being told that you have to be unrealistically positive in all you do. But I don’t think that is practically possible. You cannot be a truly happy person just by standing in front of the mirror and chanting that to be positive you’ll be happy. 

Thus the objective of the book is very clear that a truly happier person need not always have to be positive in life.

Final image

Mayuresh S. Shilotri writes on Product, EdTech, UX, Customer Development & Early Stage Growth. 2,000-Word posts only. You can discover more about me here

Best way to stay in touch –

  • LinkedIn for the latest 
  • Youtube for the videos

Coming soon a Discord – Community.

Join to get sneak peek into what's happening

I write about books, experiences, product, UX, EdTech, early stage growth, validation – mostly tech. Subscribe if these topics interest you. Once every 15 days emailer. I promise – No spam. (I am known for it otherwise) 😉